Lifestyle Venus

Start Doing These Things for Yourself, especially if you are a (young) mother

Making time for yourself is always important (because: #selfcare), but perhaps that is even more important if you are a mother. We explain why it is so important to keep doing things for yourself and of course: a few handy tips on how to do that.

Life – especially with toddlers running around – can sometimes be quite overwhelming. If you free up little or no time for yourself, you will run out at a certain point.

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Why it is important to do things for yourself


It is not for nothing that many psychologists and scientists argue in favor of always doing something for yourself. Right as a mother. After all, you need time to recharge.

It makes you happy

Do you like to read books ? Schedule a moment for it every day ( tip : not just before you go to sleep so that you fall asleep after one minute). Do you enjoy cycling, discovering new cities or just enjoying a day at the sauna ?

Continue to make this a priority. An exhausted you makes no one happy. We bet that after such a wonderful activity for yourself you can go full of energy again?

Great for you and for your children.

An example for your children
In the busy life with poop diapers , school, work, washing, cooking, eating and putting children to bed it is quite easy (read: almost inevitable) that you occasionally forget yourself. After all, you want to do well for your children. But are you really doing it in the best way by running past yourself completely and giving up everything for your children?

A mother who does not make time for herself and gives up everything for her children may not reflect the image you want to give to your child. It is healthy to keep doing things for yourself. You are more than a mother. You are also a woman. You can tell your children what you want, but studies show that they copy 80% of their parents’ behavior and 20% listen to ‘upbringing’.

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Time to reflect

A moment of peace is a moment to reflect and reflect on what you have. When you are in the middle of the whirlwind, it is sometimes difficult to realize what you actually have and may be grateful for. By looking at life occasionally from a distance, you create space to see what you already have.

Remember that you are still you and not just a mother, wife or employee. That you keep doing things for yourself does not make you a bad mother. In fact: you set a good example for your children, you can never teach them about Enough early enough . You do you!

You can do these things

Of course, everyone will be happy with other things, but these are at least our favorite activities so that we can catch our breath and recharge ourselves.

  • walk : take an afternoon to walk through the woods, park or on the beach. The fresh wind and the sloshing waves always do us good.
  • Reading : whether it is a book or a magazine, reading ensures that you are completely in the moment and forget about external stimuli.
  • Go on the road and discover : did you know that our brain is happy with new events? Seeing a new landscape (from the waters in Friesland to the hills in Limburg or a museum in The Hague to a new coffee shop near you).
  • Wellness : no matter how you get used to it: practically doing little on a day and being pampered with steam baths, saunas, a pedicure or perhaps a massage almost everyone will be happy. There are few things that work as effectively as this quick fix .

Do not plan things that make you happy unless you run exhausted behind the facts. Preferably schedule them at least once a week.

Happy mom, happy children!

Lifestyle Venus

30 things you can do with your children when it rains

In our cold little country it sometimes rains with trays from heaven. These are the kind of days you like to stay inside with the little ones. Are you looking for some inspiration for these rainy days? Then read on.

These are the 30 things you can do with your children when it rains:

  1. Make your own mucus . Because the little ones love this!
  2. Camping inside. Set up a tent, add flashlights, and tell some exciting stories.
  3. Make your own marshmallows. These also do great during the indoor camping session!
  4. Create a play paradise (such as: a climbing paradise) at home. Try to copy the Ballorig park!
  5. Bake cookies . Because baking cookies is always a good idea. For example, make these gluten-free chocolate coconut cookies , because they are delicious.
  6. Make a paper machine dish. Nice crea bea with the kids;).
  7. Hold a film marathon.Cozy cozy and warm on couch. Read also: From Frozen to Alladin: from this date you can stream Disney movies with the kids via Disney + in the Netherlands .
  8. Make a fidget spinner yourself. Because they themselves are also very interesting.
  9. Go to a museum. Educational and fun at the same time.
  10. Go treasure hunt indoors. You would have loved this yourself in your youth.
  11. Performing a play. From Romeo & Juliet to Shrek, everything is possible!
  12. Make mini pizzas. This is a fun and cozy job with the kids. For example, make these small mini pizzas from eggplant .
  13. Go to an indoor skate park.For the tough little men (and girls).
  14. Craft a DIY thing. We have enough fun DIY things in our archive! Such as: DIY Squishy: 4 easy and fast ways to make a squishy yourself .
  15. Bullying (the card game). This makes people happy.
  16. Go out for lunch. And in particular to places where you normally do not come.
  17. Make your own moon sand. Children still find this fantastic.
  18. Organize a tea party. Combined with tasty snacks and pastries of course. These delicious chocolate brownie bites will taste great.
  19. 19. Get started with play dough. This never bores.
  20. Organize a dance party. The children from the neighborhood can also participate nicely in this.
  21. Have a (board) games afternoon. Cozy as always. Also read: Family evening! The best board games for children of all ages .
  22. Go bowling. If your child is old enough for this, of course.
  23. Read a book. This is wonderfully cozy while it rains.
  24. Make Oreos yourself. Because these cookies are even tastier than normal cookies. Make: Recipe: Oreo cheesecake truffles (2 ingredients, so delicious) .
  25. String the bracelets. Girls in particular are fans.
  26. Give a fancy dress party. Collect as many outfits as possible and make your effort.
  27. Making paper planes. And let the whole room fly through.
  28. Play hide and seek. An old but fun game!
  29. Create a unicorn recipe. Because everyone is a fan of unicorns.
  30. Go badminton with inflated balloons. You can do this for hours.

How you treat Horror messages and ‘Momo Challenge’ as a parent?

The ‘Momo Challenge’ has been running on the internet since last year, but now the bizarre and dangerous trend is also making its appearance in Flanders. Young people and children receive spooky messages that threaten them and incite them to assignments.

In Russia, more than a hundred young people would have died after they had participated in the notorious ‘Momo Challenge’, but now the horror messages via the Netherlands are blowing to Flanders. Through WhatsApp, Facebook and Snapchat, young people, usually between 9 and 12 years old, get spooky messages that continue to circulate as a kind of chain letter.

The young people are sent scary images with ominous messages. For example, bad things would happen if the young people did not carry out certain tasks. And now the Momo Challenge would also infiltrate children’s films on YouTube and in Fortnite. In this way, the challenges would escape the control of parents more often.

Old children are usually playful with the messages, but especially for young children the assignments are dangerous. The Computer Crime Unit of the federal police is currently investigating some fifteen cases and Mediawijs, the Flemish Knowledge Center for Media Literacy, makes an appeal to parents to talk to their children.

This is how you deal with it as a parent

Parents of young children do well to ask their child if he / she has ever received such a message. Pressure them on the heart that they do not have to be afraid and that those messages mean nothing. Then explain to your children that they are not allowed to forward the messages, because otherwise they also scare other children.

It is also important to ensure a trust environment and tell them that you will not take the smartphone

Dating and Relationships Venus

Single mom dating tips on Tinder – Mission possible

“But I do not have time to date anyway!” I sigh, when a friend suggests that it might be exactly what I need. I also find myself very busy with the education and enjoyment of Emma’s princesses, three days in paid employment, my own company and sport. Old Sophie would have said: “That is excuses, you make it a story!” And to be fair, in some important things Sophie was really a lot better than new Sophie. Like stress-free living, enjoying the moment, being loving, not condemning, etc. Old Sophie was a hippie, but it’s quite useful skills for a happy life. And old Sophie would go dating on Tinder now, so okay, mom Tinder goes .

single mom dating tips and advices

Create a tinder profile

If you are dating on Tinder, you must create a profile. You can select a number of photos and write a text about who you are. Here I have put some things about myself in key words. You can of course choose not to mention that you are mommy, but I have used it. Nice and open and transparent. Do not like it, fine! We both continue a little further 😉.

First impression

The first impressions on this meat inspection platform were a bit “meh”. I was a bit too old in Sophie style. Give everyone a chance. Try not to judge on appearance, tattoos, training, etcetera. Soon I learned that a number of road mark criteria apply to me as a swiping mum on Tinder and that I should not be too open-minded.

Serious dating way it’s:

  • Naked upper body selfies, especially those with a toilet in the background (the picture in your swimsuit in the sea by someone else is still possible);
  • More than one photo with alcohol;
  • Photos on purpose to show tattoos / piercings;
  • Anyone who is “between jobs” or “director at self-employed”;
  • Only party photos;
  • Men who put photos of their children on Tinder, because hello … privacy of your child? Never thought about it? Nothing for Sophie, gone.
  • Men who make sexist jokes in their text or simply indicated only to do some physical interaction;
  • Men who clearly state that they want to have a child, because I’m not really that fast yet and then I will really feel like a brooder / tool;
  • And the last thing I’m least proud of: if I’m not at least a bit attractive … Also gone.

Road, road, road, road … I probably miss someone who is nice because of these criteria, but it saves a lot of time. Because all those matches are going to talk to you too!

Dating on Tinder: the Matches

If you like each other (swipe right), you have a match. A big advantage is that since I have used the strict criteria as above, nobody immediately starts talking about sex. So I can really recommend them! Except of course if that would be exactly what you are looking for. Then make your own criteria to delete. That makes dating on Tinder a lot easier.

Perhaps you now think that at most one man will remain after all these criteria, if you are lucky. But nothing is less true! There are just a lot of men on Tinder, and before I knew it I already knew about 200 matches. And the nice thing is, they are actually mainly intelligent people with whom you can really have a conversation.

It is only a bit of an overkill to date them all too. But really, I can recommend all single moms. In any case, a little chat with a mountain of matches at Tinder is already very pleasant. But seeing what is out there can not hurt either 😛. And to be honest, the evenings can sometimes be a bit lonely when the house is ready and you do not have to work.

Dating on Tinder: the conversations

I mentioned it already, you will then address each other. If you are not going to talk to your matches, you are mainly collecting a few profiles. Despite my intention to talk to everyone, it is perhaps possible to imagine that talking with 200 matches takes a lot of time. So I also guessed that I did not speak to anyone. I was pretty business-like. As soon as I got the “nah” feeling, I indicated this and removed the match. Easy.

But what do you say to each other? What is your opening sentence on Tinder? When I started a conversation, I usually asked a question about something from the profile. And I thought it was the best conversations when they did that to me. The question “How are you?” Or something to that effect, I find quite a buster if you do not know each other yet. I had a lot of very nice conversations! So that is why it is really recommended!

The first date

Now I have had my first date on Sunday, after weeks of apping! Okay, he was not as divinely handsome as on the pictures I had seen 100 times. But much better and more charming than I expected about the app. So all in all, there will certainly be a second date, if at least it’s me.

The side effect of dating on Tinder or other dating sites
It may sound a bit crazy, but I really bloom since I date again. Not as if I was so incredibly unhappy or lonely, but I was just very little concerned with myself. And dating is also a way to get to know yourself a bit better. Men ask you questions, which you yourself do not just have an answer to and so you start thinking about it.

Now that I know more about myself, I can work on taking back the good things of old Sophie, and combining them with the new (and therefore for Emma) caring things for the new Sophie.

What Tinder may not be good for 😉. Oh and I will definitely keep you informed about a possible second date. Any tips for dating moms? Anyone?